Sudo Remove /unresolved_feelings

I believe "sudo rm -rf /unresolved_feelings" has  linear with this case, reflects the  decision made after being trapped in uncertainty for so long. Just like a computer system that requires a specific command to clear junk files, life sometimes demands a decisive action to resolve unfinished feelings.

 

There comes a point in life where we must choose: to keep walking with the shadows of the past or  face them with one final act of courage. I call this the Puputan War, not in a physical sense, but as an inner battle to resolve what has been left hanging. Because life is too precious to leave unanswered questions.

 

For some, relationships are built on ease and comfort. However, I have always believed that sustainability in a relationship is not merely about financial stability but about resilience, survival skills, and deep emotional understanding. A lasting relationship is not just about material wealth but about two people who can face reality together.

 

In psychological theory, particularly in John Bowlby’s attachment theory, a healthy relationship is one that is built on emotional security and resilience. This means it is not just about “what can be given now,” but about how strong someone is in enduring and adapting when facing challenges alongside their partner.

 

Many relationships may appear perfect from the outside but begin to crumble when real-life struggles demand resilience. Financial privilege does provide an easy start, but without mental toughness, a relationship can become fragile when life’s storms arrive. This is what differentiates relationships based solely on comfort from those built on sustainability.

 

When someone grows up with ease, without having to struggle to achieve something, their mindset is often shaped within a comfort zone. They may be accustomed to receiving rather than fighting. Meanwhile, someone who has been forged through a long journey understands that love is not just about enjoying happy moments but about the readiness to face uncertainty together.

 

Psychologist Angela Duckworth, in her book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, states that success and resilience in life are influenced more by perseverance than by talent or initial privileges. In relationships, this means that couples with high resilience are more likely to build and sustain long-term relationships compared to those who rely solely on pre-existing conveniences.

 

I do not regret the past. However, if there is one thing I must resolve, it is ensuring that the feelings that once existed do not remain as mere unanswered speculation. I want confirmation, not to change what has already happened, but to gain the closure I deserve. If the answer is “no,” then I will walk away with my head held high. If the answer is “yes,” then I will not wait long to make it real.

 

Because in the end, life is not about having everything from the start but about building something meaningful together. And only those with strong resilience truly understand the value of a long journey. So, if someone out there is still doubting their choice, perhaps it is time to ask: Do you only seek comfort, or do you need someone who will stand by you through anything? Serayu river still record this.